You're going to die someday. We all are. And while it sounds blunt, facing our own mortality is the start of something deeper—it’s a pathway to understanding our grief, our relationships, and how we can live more fully right now. And after recent events, like the election, which may have stirred feelings of grief, frustration, or worry for the future, this reminder feels even more relevant.
Grief as a Reaction to Change
Grief isn’t just about losing someone; it’s about any kind of loss or change that impacts our lives. From shifts in relationships and health to political events that shake our sense of security or purpose, grief arises in all sorts of forms. After any big shift—personal or societal—we can feel a complex array of emotions: anger, sadness, fear, or even a strange sense of numbness. These feelings are normal. And by giving them space, we create a way to understand what matters to us.
Think about this: every time we experience a change, we’re asked to leave something behind, and with that comes a kind of grief. When people are thrown off balance or out of their comfort zones, there’s a sense of loss, a piece of the familiar that’s gone. That’s grief too. It’s a little less clear, but it can be just as impactful.
We might grieve dreams we didn’t fulfill, the person we used to be, or even places we used to call home. Right now, with the world feeling more divided and uncertain, a lot of people are grieving that sense of stability, that comfort we once knew. This kind of grief often goes unspoken, yet it affects our mental and emotional health deeply.
Why We Resist Grief—and Why Embracing It Can Help
Grief can be terrifying to confront, so many of us choose to avoid it altogether, hoping it will pass if we keep busy. But grief has a way of sticking around, showing up unexpectedly, or even spilling into our everyday reactions. Ignoring it can amplify feelings of frustration or loneliness.
Instead, I encourage a gentler approach. Accept that grief is part of being human. Acknowledge that grief isn’t linear; it’s messy and unpredictable. But by allowing yourself to feel it, you can come through with a clearer understanding of what’s important to you.
The Benefits of Allowing Grief to Transform Us
By embracing grief, we can tap into deeper truths about ourselves. Grieving openly can lead to:
Deeper relationships: Shared vulnerability in grief can create stronger bonds and allow for more genuine conversations.
Increased resilience: Understanding your grief allows you to confront it, process it, and build emotional resilience, which supports you through future challenges.
A more fulfilling life: When you’re aware of what’s been lost or changed, you’re better able to cherish what you have and make decisions aligned with your values.
How a Death Doula Can Support You in Grief and Life
You don’t have to face this alone. As a death doula, I offer a safe, non-judgmental space to talk about grief, end-of-life wishes, and the journey to healing. Grief can be an incredibly isolating experience, especially when it’s linked to unspoken topics like mortality. Together, we can navigate grief’s twists and turns, helping you feel understood and supported as you process these difficult emotions.
I work with clients who are ready to approach life with intention—planning meaningful end-of-life experiences, addressing unresolved feelings, and focusing on what truly matters now. If the thought of unpacking your grief or end-of-life fears has been lingering, consider this an invitation to reach out. It doesn’t have to be overwhelming, and you don’t have to do it alone. Let's talk.
Moving Forward Together
If recent events have stirred your emotions, recognize this as an opportunity to reflect on what feels unsettled. This is a powerful moment to consider what you want to change or hold close as you move forward. Life is precious, and each day is a chance to align with your true values, create meaningful connections, and prepare for the future with a sense of peace.
Let’s make grief less of a burden and more of a guide. Reach out if you’d like support on this journey. Grief might be unavoidable, but together, we can ensure it becomes a stepping stone to a more fulfilled life.
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